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Welcome To Post 200…Well Make that 201


Holy crap, I’ve published 200 articles!!

I’ve been writing for 2 years and have finally reached 200 post… well technically my video post Bebe – Anuel AA x Ozuna was post 200 and this is technically post #201. Lol

I don’t profess to be a blogging wizard or any kind of expert in the field. What I can say is that I have experienced a lot more of life and blogging and how the two have become intertwined in being apart of who I am right now.


I am excited, honored and in awe that this is my 200th blog post. Today’s post is dedicated to you: all of my amazing supporters who have followed my journey here. From faithful readers who have been with me since the beginning to those who are reading this blog for the first time, from those of you who have shared beautiful comments to quiet readers whom I have yet to learn are reading my articles, today I celebrate you and how much your support has had a positive impact in my life.


For my 201st post, I will share with you things that I have learned to get me through some rough times in both my life and writing.

So here it is, my 201st blog post!

It is a milestone that I have been striving to achieve since I hit my 50th blog post nearly 2 years ago. There were many times I almost walked away from this blogging business as I was disappointed and frustrated that my message was never being received. I had to learn to write for me and get over my ego of placing the expectation that anyone else would be interested in reading what I wrote. This shift in mindset has been a tremendous lesson and one that leads me to a continual passion for writing.

I don’t profess to be a blogging wizard or any kind of expert in the field. What I can say is that I have experienced a lot more of life and blogging and how the two have become intertwined in being apart of who I am right now.

For my 200th post, I will share with you things that I have learned to get me through some rough times in both my life and writing.


Write when you are angry.

Don’t be afraid to write when you are pissed off. Be careful though, cool off before posting! I don’t recommend posting when you are angry. Take some time, read your words before posting, sometimes you cannot take back your words.

Learn to write anywhere.

I used to write strictly in the comfort of my living room. Not only for my inspiration but for the sake of time, I had to learn to write anywhere. I learned to write blog posts on my phone, in the garage waiting for my car to be serviced, in my bedroom in my bed right before I fell asleep.

Don’t be afraid to play.

I cannot express this enough, play with your blog! Try all kinds of themes, layouts, and colors. Making it personal and fresh will keep you interested in this fun hobby. Change is where the growth happens, and your blog is no different. Don’t be afraid to write silly stuff and explore what readers are looking for. The more different things you write from time to time, the more you will expand your writing repertoire.

Make it a ritual to release.

My motto of “never miss a day because everyday is productive” has ensured that I make regular posts to this blog. I have had some awful writing dry spells that would have been blog deal-breakers, but by making sure that I post something daily or at least regularly, it enabled me to fight through them. Ironically, some of my best posts have been written when I was cramming to get something written for the next day. Be consistent with your posts, your followers like that. Your habits will define your life, and this your blogging. Be habitual, ritualistic, and your blogging will become a “non-negotiable” in your life.

Use Grammarly!

Pay for the full Grammarly suite! Grammarly has made me look like an astute writer and let’s be honest, poor grammar will kill any well-intentioned blog post. The unintended consequence of using Grammarly is that it is a great teaching tool to write better and to gain better writing habits.

Share your posts with friends.

Sharing your blog posts with your friends on other social media platforms is a no-brainer. The ideas that you get from friends will give you the energy to write that next post, and then the next post after that! When sharing your post on your social media stream, make sure you add a personal note with the link. This helps give your idea a little more context and will make folks stop the scroll finger long enough for them to relate and click.

Thank you card

How I Stay Healthy

A lot of factors play a role in staying healthy. In turn, good health can decrease your risk of developing certain conditions. These include heart disease, stroke, some cancers, and injuries. Learn what you can do to maintain your health.


I am amazed by how many people I meet who are in poor health. Wander around in a crowd at an event or in a shopping mall and people just don’t look good. Worse, talk to people and listen to their long list of ailments. People are out of shape, weigh too much, and have little energy. In this blog I’m going to share with you how I stay healthy.


1) Eat properly

Obesity is a huge issue in this country, pun intended.  Over two thirds of Americans are overweight and 36% are obese!  Further 32% of children and adolescents are overweight.  This is unbelievable.  As recently as a generation ago you would rarely see obese people.  For sure, some of this is hereditary.  But most of the issues are due to poor diet and sedentary lifestyles. What you eat is closely linked to your health. Balanced nutrition has many benefits. By making healthier food choices, you can prevent or treat some conditions. These include heart disease, stroke, and diabetes. A healthy diet can help you lose weight and lower your cholesterol, as well.


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The best diet is one that has a balance of nutrients measured by calorie intake.  U.S. Dietary Guidelines recommend that you eat more:

• Fruit and vegetables.

• Whole grains.

• Fat-free or low-fat milk and milk products.

• Lean protein.

And consume less:

• Fats and sugars.

• Refined grains.

• Sodium.

• Dietary cholesterol.

• Alcohol.


While these guidelines are useful, it’s hard to follow all of this in day-to-day life.  The most important thing is something my grandmother always said:  “moderation in all things.”  Don’t over-eat, and eat a variety of foods.  Balance your intake.  The way to lose weight is to eat fewer calories over the course of each day.  Another important practice is to eat breakfast.  Studies show that skipping breakfast triggers the body to eat more later in the day and store calories.

Healthy Life wooden sign with a beach on background

2) Exercise

Once you’ve balanced your diet and limited calorie intake, you need to balance your calorie expenditure.  “Calories in and calories out” is a good focus.  If you burn more calories than you consume, weight will drop. Currently in my case, I have lost a little too much weight so for me the more calories the better! If you eat more calories than you burn, usually you will gain weight as the body stores the excess.

Exercise can help prevent heart disease, stroke, diabetes, and colon cancer. It can help treat depression, osteoporosis, and high blood pressure. People who exercise also get injured less often. Routine exercise can make you feel better and keep your weight under control. Try to be active for 30 to 60 minutes about 5 times a week. Remember, any amount of exercise is better than none.

I exercise daily or every other day but at least 4-5 times per week. My favorite things to use are the Gold’s Gym Ankle Weights, Gold’s Gym Stability Ball, Ab Wheel, and the Resistance Tube Kit. I stay in shape as much as possible. The weights are really good for building and toning lower body. I mainly exercise my lower body but I also tone my upper body a little. I mainly do squats, lunges,pelvic lifts, donkey kicks with the weights, and straight buttocks squeeze. For my upper body I mainly do ab exercises because for some strange reason when I do too much upper body exercises I end up loosing a little of my breast size.


3) Sleep

Finally, after eating right and exercising, you need to sleep.  I probably am not the best one to talk about sleep because my sleeping hours are all over the place but when I do I make the most of it. The average adult needs about eight hours of sleep per night.  Sleep is the great cure-all.  It is a time when your body recovers, and when your immune system is improved. Even those who slept 6 hours or less who otherwise had no health problems had death rates 1.8 times higher than those who slept “normal” hours.  So don’t cheat your sleep!


Things to consider

In addition to the factors listed above, you should make time for whole body health. Visit your doctors for regular checkups. This includes your primary doctor, as well as your dentist and eye doctor. Let your health benefits and preventive care services work for you. Make sure you know what your health insurance plan involves. Preventive care can detect disease or prevent illness before they start. This includes certain doctor visits and screenings.

You need to make time for breast health. Breast cancer is a leading cause of death for women. Men can get breast cancer, too. Talk to your doctor about when you should start getting mammograms. You may need to start screening early if you have risk factors, such as family history. One way to detect breast cancer is to do a monthly self-exam.

Women should get routine pap smears, as well. Women ages 21 to 65 should get tested every 3 years. This may differ if you have certain conditions or have had your cervix removed.






50 Facts About Me

I think I ended up convincing myself that no one in their right mind would care to read about random things having to do with me. Recently, I re-visited the idea and I must have convinced myself (somehow) that someone may, indeed care to read random facts about me because well, I ended up writing a list of fifty.


I figured if nothing else, it may help you get to know me a little more beyond just my lifesyle and beauty posts! I really want to build a relationship with my readers and that includes getting to know each other, right!?


  1. I am Puerto Rican and Mexican. Half and half, so I get the best of both worlds.
  2. I love Starbucks….my fav is Carmel Macchiato
  3. I’m a total believer of “a place for everything, and everything in it’s place”. Knowing my room isn’t clean/picked up annoys me to no end
  4. Although I don’t do it as much as I’d like, I adore traveling-everything about it! Packing, staying in hotels, seeing new places…more traveling, please!
  5. I was also sort of a tomboy back in grade school- I would wear camo pants and play capture the flag with the boys
  6. Without my contacts or glasses, I can’t even see the giant “E” on the eye doctor’s chart…only kidding I can see it. But I’m far sighted in one eye and near sighted in the other
  7. My favorite chic flicks are Sex and the City 1 & 2
  8. Everything happens to me in 3’s good and bad lol
  9. I sneeze in 3’s
  10. If The Scarface is on TV, I have to watch it


11. I love all kinds of foods, Puerto Rican and Mexican of course, El Salvadorian, Cuban, Italiano, Chinese, Vietnamese, American, Cajun, Japanese, Greek and Indian (India and Native American)

12. I love to exercise

13. I’m right handed

14. I’m a huge UT Arlington football fan. Huge. Hook Em’ Horns!!

15. I love all kinds of music

16. My two fav Puerto Rican singers are Daddy Yankee and Anuel AA

17. I love telling how my day or week was and it takes me like, an hour to do so because I have to include every detail (I’m sure that’s evident in my rambling writing style)

18. I’m a list maker and planner. I have lists for everything and have to plan every detail of my life.

19. Halloween is my favorite holidays and as a child because I LOVED dressing up (I would have my costume planned out a year in advance)

20. Winter is my least favorite season. I despise the cold but oddly I love snow and Colorado.


21. I absolutely love Adidas

22. I am a NY Yankees fan

23. My most used Puerto Rican phrase,”Boricua pa’que tu lo sepas!”

24. My birthday is March 3

25. One of my most important goals in life is to have a family and be the best mom possible….but the way the cards lay currently I don’t see it happening

26. The following quote is me in a nutshell- “I was born with an enormous need for affection, and a terrible need to give it”

27. I didn’t have my license until I was 18 (I have anxiety and something about driving always exacerbated it. Fear conquered!) I think I’m a totally badass driver btw

28. I have 7 tattoos

29. I’ve done a lot of things in my past that I’m not proud of….but have learned from and made me who I am today

30. I love dogs all kinds of dogs but my main fav is a pitbull or bully


31. I used to weight 185 (The pic above is 2yr ago)

32. I’m very OCD

33. I hate messy people and messy houses

34. I only date Latino men

35. I love comfy oversized sweaters

36. I’m from Dallas TX

37. I currently live in Tulsa

38. I absolutely can’t stand Trump supporters

39. The kind of woman I am they don’t make me anymore and with that being said if you lost me then you fucked up!

40. I’m the nicest person you’ll ever meet but don’t cross me


41. My fav place in the whole world is PR

42. My fav place is la playa

43. My biggest pet peeve is being lied to

44. Referencing back to #43 with me honesty is everything

45. Favorite flower is the PR Hibiscus

46. I love frogs but Coqui’s are the best b/c they sing instead of making a ribbit noise

47. I’m a book nerd

48. Everything has to match it doesn’t matter if it’s what I’m wearing or what is in my casa everything matches

49. Sometimes I think I tell people too much about myself

50. I over think everything a little way too much


50 Tonos


Today, I’m going to take you down a dark rabbit hole. Are you ready? I hope so. Have you ever thought of your deepest darkest fantasy? Or, maybe something you want to explore but are to afraid to ask for what you want? Sometimes, I’m sure you think that what you like or want is depraved or even off the wall crazy. Sometimes, you have to step back and do an overview of your wants and needs and then try to slowly introduce them. Have you ever thought of what it might be like to hear your partner say,”yes Master, no Master, or Permission to speak Master?” Or, if you’re a woman you’ve fantasized about being called Mistress. We all have our dark……you’re not alone.


Most of you know the movie 50 Shades of Grey it is notable for its explicitly erotic scenes featuring elements of sexual practices involving bondage/discipline, dominance/submission, and sadism/masochism (BDSM). The tension between Ana and Christian eventually comes to a head after Ana asks Christian to punish her in order to show her how extreme a BDSM relationship with him could be. Christian fulfills Ana’s request, beating her with a belt, and Ana realizes they are incompatible. Have you ever felt like that? That maybe, just maybe you’re a sadist and you partner may not understand?


Maybe you’re wondering what one is or perhaps if you yourself are one. A sadist is someone who enjoys inflicting pain on others, sometimes in a sexual sense. … A sadist is the opposite of a masochist, who enjoys being in pain. A sadist is all about hurting others, usually to get off sexually. However, this word is about more than sex. But there is a more pervasive, and more mundane, type of sadism hiding within the recesses of many individuals’ personalities.


Psychologists talk about “the dark triad” in personality, representing a perfect-storm combination of narcissism, psychopathy, and Machiavellianism. People high in the dark triad traits callously use people to their own advantage, seeing them as tools to exploit in order to get what they want.


While 50 Shades of Grey has everyone talking about S&M in the mainstream, that’s not the kind of masochism I’m talking about here, folks. Although that’s one definition of masochism, I’m more interested in the one that characterizes a person who is gratified by pain and degradation or finds pleasure in self-denial. Wondering if you or someone around you is holding onto masochistic tendencies?


The number one sign that someone is a masochist is that they are unable to say no. “No” is not selfish or unkind — it’s an act of radical self-care. You’re obsessive about pushing yourself to be “good.” You get off on rescuing people, animals, or the planet. You resist receiving blessings when others try to give them to you. You walk in the room and run straight for a narcissist. You fail to stand up for yourself. You’re addicted to perfectionism. You judge yourself for negative emotions. You’re magnetized to drama. You run the other way if anything feels too yummy.


While I’m not suggesting that we should all turn into overindulgent hedonists, the inability to relax into simple pleasures is an obvious sign of masochism. Do you find yourself bored when life flows with ease? Do you have a story that says that everything good in life comes alongside pain? Well, it’s time to rewrite the story. Allow yourself to experience infinite blessings without undue pain.

Make sure you’re not kicking yourself if some points on this list describe you. Just close your eyes and see yourself wrapped in great arms of love that nourish, comfort, protect, and love you unconditionally. I personally have been through masochism and back…it’s not as bad as you think it is.


Or maybe perhaps you’re a demisexual, which is a person who does not experience sexual attraction unless they form a strong emotional connection with someone. It’s more commonly seen in but by no means confined to romantic relationships. The term demisexual comes from the orientation being “halfway between” sexual and asexual.


BDSM is a variety of often erotic practices or roleplaying involving bondage, discipline, dominance and submission, sadomasochism, and other related interpersonal dynamics. Given the wide range of practices, some of which may be engaged in by people who do not consider themselves as practicing BDSM, inclusion in the BDSM community or subculture is usually dependent upon self-identification and shared experience.

The BDSM initialism.

The term “BDSM” is interpreted as a combination of the abbreviations B/D (Bondage and Discipline), D/s (Dominance and submission), and S/M (Sadism and Masochism). BDSM is now used as a catch-all phrase covering a wide range of activities, forms of interpersonal relationships, and distinct subcultures. BDSM communities generally welcome anyone with a non-normative streak who identifies with the community; this may include cross-dressers, body modification enthusiasts, animal roleplayers, rubber fetishists, and others.


Activities and relationships within a BDSM context are often characterized by the participants taking on complementary, but unequal roles; thus, the idea of informed consent of both the partners is essential. The terms “submissive” and “dominant” are often used to distinguish these roles: the dominant partner (“dom”) takes psychological control over the submissive (“sub”). The terms “top” and “bottom” are also used: the top is the instigator of an action while the bottom is the receiver of the action. The two sets of terms are subtly different: for example, someone may choose to act as bottom to another person, for example, by being whipped, purely recreation-ally, without any implication of being psychologically dominated by them, or a submissive may be ordered to massage their dominant partner. Despite the bottom performing the action and the top receiving they have not necessarily switched roles.


The abbreviations “sub” and “dom” are frequently used instead of “submissive” and “dominant”. Sometimes the female-specific terms “mistress”, “domme” or “dominatrix” are used to describe a dominant woman, instead of the gender-neutral term “dom”. Individuals who can change between top/dominant and bottom/submissive roles—whether from relationship to relationship or within a given relationship—are known as switches. Is any of this exciting you or making your mind race to places only seen behind the shadow? Don’t be ashamed of it, it’s part of who you are embrace it and have fun with it.


What does it mean to be sexually dominant or sexually submissive?

What defines Dominance?

  • Being in control.
  • Prioritizing your desires.
  • Expecting obedience or compliance.
  • Taking responsibility .
  • Carrying a duty to your submissive.

I think the core of most D/s relationships is that the Dominant is mostly in control of things (remembering that submission is given, not taken) and expects their submissive to be pleasing in whatever way works for their relationship. I just love the raw expectation of obedience that compatible D-types have with me.


As a submissive (someone who’s into it for the joy of submission, not just someone who likes being dominated in bed), the primary desire is to please the D-type. That often means elevating their desires above your own in a variety of different ways. For example, a sub generally doesn’t enjoy being punished but that doesn’t mean they resist it. Allowing someone else to control you is a broad statement and could be as minor as obeying orders in the bedroom or as high-level as literally not having opinions until you hear what your D-type wants.

But this question is asking about the specifics of being sexually dominant or submissive in bed, psychologically.


I’m not sure what to add to my previous answer. Sexual dominance is about prioritizing your own desires and exerting control over the situation and your partner. Sexual submission is about allowing yourself to be controlled by your partner. Sexual D/s often involves the Dominant’s pleasure being more important than the submissive’s pleasure, or the submissive’s pleasure being entirely controlled by the Dominant (such as when you’re allowed to pleasure yourself or orgasm). Psychologically, it’s just another type of sexual play.


Has this inspired any of you to come out to yourselves about what you really feel or how you want to feel? I think that sexual liberation is a must. Life, is way too short to be doing the same mundane positions as the normal doggy or missionary.Small things can tell you a LOT about someone’s personality. Certain signs are telling.


Whether it’s a preferred wine or underwear, a zodiac sign or favorite food, there are several pointers to someone’s personality. But NOTHING is more telling than someone’s favorite sex position.Sex is the most intimate act in human existence. It says countless things about you. The kind of lover you are will always reflect the kind of person you are. Hope this has opened your mind to more possibilities in the sheets.

Christmas with an ex boyfriend?

Happy Holidays Mi Gente!

Holidays are meant to be spent with the people you love, right? Well, this year is a lil different for me I’m not celebrating this year. But for those of you who are celebrating happy holidays to you!


Holidays with a twist! How do you decide whether to keep an ex — or merely someone you dated — in your life after the spark has gone out? Very good question. Sometimes you don’t get much of a choice. When I broke things off, I cut off all communication. If you have kids together, you might be co-parenting or at least communicating especially around the holidays. As for me, I don’t have kids so I don’t have those problems.



Whether or not the breakup was your call, cutting a person out of your life—someone with whom you’ve shared secrets, dreams for the future, a bed, or even a home—is really, really tough. And there’s no formula for breaking up with someone. But even after the hard part is over, it’s never as cut-and-dry as simply saying good-bye. In today’s smartphone-centric, Facebook-addicted, Instagram-obsessed world, staying in touch with an ex is a lot easier—and messier.


Have you ever received a text from your ex on SM because it is the only way they can try to get a hold of you? What would you do, if happened to you? Would you respond back or would you ignore it? What if you had been in a long term relationship with your ex and was very close with their family, would you respond if they contacted you after one year of being separated to spend Christmas with them and their family? Your ex family.


My ex boyfriend wants me to come hangout with his family for Christmas. I broke up with him but he still wants to spend Christmas with me because I moved to another state and am spending the holiday alone. It’s crazy, I never check my FB….ever. Crazy thing when I did decide to check it, there was am DM from him. FML! I probably should of never responded. SMH.


Being single at the holidays is emotional for most, but it also gives you the chance to reflect on relationships of your past. That is if, you’re that sentimental…..but for me 0 sentimientos here. If you’re thinking of reconnecting with a former love at the holidays, you’re not alone many people are just like you….I however am not going to reconnect or rekindle anything. My corazon belongs to someone else, who doesn’t know it yet. Just going as a friend of the family and to see and gift my nephews. I really miss the children and my sister and ex parents in law. They weren’t the problem they just got caught in the cross fire.


Exes trying to be friends when one person still has feelings for the other and is holding on to hope of reconciliation; or someone is still hurt from the breakup, and that makes it hard to continue any kind of relationship. I moved on from the day I ended things he still holds on. Much like being in a romantic relationship, remaining friends with an ex requires that you’re both looking for similar things. In my case, it could be possible to be friends with him but then again I really don’t see it.



But, for those of you who are desperately trying to salvage a holiday relationship I do have some rules to go by. Good luck!

What are the rules and proper etiquette for recycling an ex at the holidays?

Here are five tips on how to reconnect or attend a special holiday event with your former beau or girlfriend, to make it a better experience for all involved.


1. Don’t talk about what went wrong. You know the reason you broke up. He or she knows the reason you broke up. There’s no need to rehash the past and spend time going down memory lane.


2. Don’t talk about your dating history while you were apart. Perhaps one of you had a lusty affair and the other never got over your initial break-up. There’s no reason to compare bad date stories or wonder how many people your ex went to bed with. Keep the conversation on a need-to-know basis. They simply don’t need to know what happened during your hiatus.


3. Do keep the conversation light and easy. Just like your initial first dates, remember to leave the drama behind. You might think the familiarity should allow you to accelerate things, but being a “Debbie or Donnie Downer” will turn him or her away faster than you can imagine. Ask about his or her family and how work is going, or talk about the latest accomplishments of your children. If your former love interest says they’re seeing someone, respect their relationship status and don’t try to talk them out of it.



4. Don’t try to pick up where you left off. Don’t assume your ex wants to get back together long-term. Try and look at this as a new friendship or the beginning of a new relationship that just happened to resurface during the holidays. Don’t start planning your future all over again and keep the expectations low. Live in the moment on your first date together.


5. Don’t sleep together. Avoid being overly affectionate in public the first time you see each other after a break-up. Unless you really want a friends-with-benefits relationship, don’t immediately end up back in bed. You may wake up regretting it in the morning, when your emotions are at an all-time high, as your mind wanders off thinking where the relationship is headed.


If things go well when you reunite over the holidays and you decide to start dating your ex, keep the communication going. Sending only a text message to say that you had a great time instead of calling the next day won’t win her heart. If you’re truly interested in pursuing the relationship again, pick up the phone and call to set up another date.


What were once strong feelings for him had faded to a simple fondness; the pain from the breakup a year ago is gone. As we will say our goodbyes and trade “nice to see you’s,” and we will both think about how it was merely nice to see each other. The holiday will be remarkable for being unremarkable.

And by the end of our short time together we will make no halfhearted promises to see each other again soon. And that will be just fine.