New year. New goals.
It’s a new year, which means it’s a chance for society to be better. A “new us,” if you will. So let’s band together as a species and make it our collective resolution to stop doing all of the following dumb shit that plagued us throughout last year.
Wasting Money On Flash In The Pan Trends
Stop using the word,”Hipster.”
Being So Passive Aggressive
Passive aggressiveness is often a big sign of a lack of maturity. So if you’re honest with yourself and admit that you were super passive aggressive last year–to your partner, to your friends, to your parents, etc–then maybe you should work on that. Not only is it not a good look, it’ll just help build resentment and strain your relationships. If you feel some kind of way, say so. You’ll save yourself a lot of stress and anger.
Stop saying ‘yes’ when you want to say ‘no’.
Seriously. Stop letting people walk all over you. I know it can be hard to tell the truth, and it can be hard to speak up for yourself, but this is your life. Do what you want to do, not what everyone else wants you to do.
Wasting Time With People Who Don’t Treat You Well
Yo, whether it’s that one “friend” who is always treating you like you should be lucky to be around her, or that dude who has led you on (and off, and back on again) throughout 2016, 2017 is time to kick these people to the curb. Love yourself, do better.
Stop caring about what other people think.
No, really. Your life is too short for you to care so much about what other people are thinking or saying about you. Is this their life that you are living? No. It is yours, and you are the star of your own world.
Stop treating yourself like crap.
We all have our bad moments. We all have things we wish we never said. But, honestly, your life is too precious to beat yourself up so much. Treat yourself better in 2017. Give yourself time to focus on what you love and adore about yourself. Be proud of who you are and who you have become.
Keeping Your Mouth Shut When You Want To Speak Out
This isn’t a matter of being extroverted versus introverted, or being shy versus not being shy. No matter what kind of personality you have, we all have moments when we ant to speak out but are too afraid to because we’re worried people will disagree or that we’ll sound stupid. Take a deep breath and take the plunge a little more in 2017. You never know, you could say something that someone else has been dying to say, but has been too afraid to do it. Use your voice, girl. It’s worth something.
Constantly Fishing For Compliments
If you can’t feel good about yourself without pestering your friends, family, bae, strangers on the internet, and fishing for compliments…maybe there’s something deeper going on that you need to address. Try to address your insecurity or body image issues head on. Be able to look in the mirror and say, “Oh, I like the way I look” without needing someone else to confirm that. You won’t feel gorgeous every day, that’s just life, but having a little more love for yourself is always a worthy goal to have for the year.
Not Addressing Your Mental Health Issues
Do not–I repeat, DO NOT–spend another year feeling like something isn’t quite right, feeling anxious, or depressed, or off in any sort of way without telling a parent, doctor, or counselor. You’re at an age where these issues are starting to crop up, and you need to address them sooner rather than later. Don’t be scared, just reach out and see what can be done.