So what makes a gentleman? And how easy is it to actually become one? Well, I’ve racked my brain and come up with the essential things you need to do on a regular basis that will make you a gentleman and will actually have a positive effect on your life.
Today we start changing our lifestyle. Say it with me, I want to commit to a life changing journey. Now I don’t want you to become a person you are not. Being a fake is far worse than being an honest asshole. What I do expect from you is to better yourself. You owe it to yourself, to those that love you and those that hate you.
So, what is the definition of a gentleman, you may ask? A man who’s polite and dresses well? A man who knows how to carry himself and how to behave? So before I can unleash my new army of super professional and successful gentleman into the world, I need to arm you with your strongest weapon against the world: Yourself.
Maybe all of the above.
A true gentleman is revealed not only by his manners and his outfit, but through his actions.
Let’s face it, in the 21st century, gentlemen are becoming harder and harder to find. Or perhaps the definition of what makes a gentleman a gentleman is changing and evolving with the times, rather than remaining rooted in older principles and traditions.
I’m a modern girl. I know I can take care of myself. But hey, call me old-fashioned, too. It’s fine. I can appreciate aspects of feminism, but I prefer gender roles. I like when a guy volunteers to kill a massive spider without complaint, or lift a heavy box in my stead.
I find chivalry to be a gorgeous thing.
Most women I know are a little like that. We love our modern independence in life and in love, but deep down, we want guys to treat us like ladies. As most women will attest, it’s become increasingly rare. Gentlemanly behavior sets our hearts aflutter. We want to see it, and many of us are waiting on it.
We women are used to waiting for his call … and waiting, and waiting, and checking our phones, and waiting, and waiting, and checking to make sure our phones are actually functioning, and waiting, and waiting. There’s nothing more infuriating.
Women crave reliability, but we no longer anticipate it. When a guy says he will call at 5:30 PM, we just think, “Ha! OK.” If he actually calls at 5:30 PM? Well, cue the giddiness. “This one’s a keeper.”
There’s nothing more attractive than a guy who doesn’t beat around the bush. He lets you know he’s into you, and he’s confident enough that he doesn’t care about playing it cool. He likes you, he’s excited about you, and he wants you to know it. Amazing? Uh, yeah.
Women know when we’re being taken seriously. We can tell when a guy wants to know more about us, more about what we believe, and more about how we think and react. We can tell when a man values our opinions and respects what we bring to the table in any stage of a romantic relationship. It’s what we look for most in a guy, and how we know when we’ve met our match.
Here’s to all the women who are looking for that chivalrous, good-hearted guy. He’s out there. These are the things he does to make us swoon. (And to all those chivalrous, good-hearted guys, keep doing what you’re doing. We love you for it.)
10. He cares about your opinions and shows respect.
9. He steps in during awkward situations.
8. He pulls the car around when it’s raining.
7. He offers you his jacket when you’re cold.
6. He makes sure you get home OK.
5. He expresses small, public gestures of affection.
4. He wants to meet your family and friends.
3. He doesn’t play games.
2. He calls when he says he will.
1. He holds the door for you.
Above all The Gentleman is an Internal Warrior, here we break the image of a stereotype gentleman. A true gentleman is a warrior. He will fight for what is his. Whether that is in the boardroom or on the street. Yes a real man knows how to defend himself and his loved ones. On the flip side a true gentleman avoids fights with word or fists when possible. When not possible, the gentleman’s fist knows how to do the talking.